But this is for anyone, everyone who feels that after being 'dumped' their life just isn't worth it. Even if your just having a bad day, and are going through these stages of heartbreak in other aspects of your life, I hope these songs bring some sort of clarity.
Stage One.
Your pretty much just very upset
This song sums up the whole 'you left everything we had behind' feeling. It's a crap feeling, it's like every 'I love you' that came from the relationship was just a big lie. A selfish and worthless lie. But it's a great song and an entirely awesome band.
Stage Two.
Denial, cheesy as it sounds
You start thinking that all this is just some sort of bad dream, and that you'll just wake up soon. You physically can't believe this has happened. Weeeelll it has, and this song addresses this confusing and equally shitty as the last stage feeling. You just cling on to the words that he/she told you, in quite pathetic desperation that one day soon they'll come to their sense. News for you: they very often don't.
Stage Three.
You get very, very pissed off.
Damien Rice is a god. And he kind of hits it on the head with this song about being rather pissed off about a relationship. But you kind of get the impression he hasn't been dumped as such, but is just tired of being treated crappy. Soooo there's two songs for this stage, just because yeno I couldn't decide which song was best...
These guys know about shitty relationships. Buut it's a good song if you know how much you worked on a relationship, just to get it chucked back in your face again. I'm not bitter of anything as you can tell.
Stage Four.
You want him/her back so much, you plead
Probably the hardest stage in my opinion. You get to a certain point where all you can think about is how much you need them back, and in many cases just cry and cry to them until they change their mind. To save the heartbreak for many hopefully, it doesn't work, and you feel even crapper after when you know they just don't care anymore. You feel pathetic and worthless, but it's done and you've just gotta pull yourself out of it, because now you know - they're not coming back.
Stage Five.
Back to being a soppy mess
Sara Bareilles is very cool in my opinion. After aalll these crappy stages you end up being upset again, and it's even harder this time because let's face it there's no hope of them coming back. All the plans, the dreams, they're worth bugger all now. So yeno it's yet another crappy stage, never used the word crappy so much.
Also a pretty nice song for such a shitty situation. But if Joshua Radin (being one of the most morbid song writers alive in his earlier albums) can get over these things, anyone can,
Stage Six.
Finally, there's a bit of acceptance going on
Yeaaah it's another Lady Antebellum song, but it fits pretty well. This song always makes me feel better, because at the end of the day it's not the end of the world. You've just gotta tell yourself to chin up and start enjoying life, you still miss them, like really miss them, but you get to do things you were always to busy with your ex to do in the past, but not they've moved on you realize you've got so many opportunities ahead.
People say it takes time, but I don't really believe you ever truly get over somebody you genuinely loved. But having enough self respect to know when it's time to stop begging, and start realizing you deserve more is a pretty good starting point.
So for anyone who's ever felt betrayed and rejected, life goes on. Know you worth more than a cowardly apology for 'hurting you' and realize your gonna get nowhere sitting, crying with a broken heart.
